Grayson Perry: I’m all man

Originally published on The Times Magazine website

He stresses he is a transvestite, not transgender: he dresses up for sexual thrills. Transvestitism is bound up in his taste for fetish sex, PVC clobber and sadomasochism, which featured often in his early work. “The trans spectrum is a whole different thing. I wouldn’t particularly want to live full-time as a woman. It’d be such a fag for starters, the amount of preparation every day!” (It takes him 90 minutes to apply the wig, make-up and padding.) I say I don’t find being a woman nearly so onerous. I’m being facetious, but like many feminists, I’m weary of womanhood being defined as an elaborate façade: fancy nails, false eyelashes, lingerie, sparkly clothes, heels.

“Transvestites – I speak for my own community – are heavily invested in sexism,” he says. “You go to a transvestite gathering, you won’t see anybody in trousers. It’s a joke, you know: if one of the other transvestites regularly wears trousers, they go, ‘They’re going to have a sex change any minute.’ Because only real women wear trousers all the time.”

Yet no one is equal in their sexual fantasies. “At some level, everybody is either being bent over the desk or is bending someone else over a desk. They’re not saying, ‘Shall we get cat litter on the way home?’ while wearing matching fleeces. Although in reality that’s exactly what me and my wife are doing. We live functional lives with people we love and our sex life, all the exotic stuff, happens off stage. And it’s best kept that way.” His first date with his wife was at a fetish club, but now they’re more likely to be at home watching Gogglebox: “It’s so funny. And it can be very moving.”

But we live at a moment when sexual identity appears to be in flux. Perry thinks the transgender lobby “is a very vocal group. They punch above their weight. I do wonder why they are so angry.” Maybe because trans women almost always began as heterosexual men? Perry laughs. “Yes, so they have that entitlement. Yes, it could be.”

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A Psychoanalytic Perspective

Originally posted on Youth Trans Critical Professionals

Withers’ work with Chris informed his subsequent work with a second transsexual patient who was seeking SRS, but had great difficulty tolerating any exploration of serious issues from his childhood. In the course of musing on his brief and ineffective attempt to engage the second patient in an exploratory process, Withers makes several important points.

There are currently no good diagnostic guidelines that indicate who will benefit from SRS and who will be harmed by it. This fact alone should make us very hesitant to support medical intervention with children identified as trans. Children who are prescribed puberty blockers followed by cross sex hormones will be permanently sterilized, and their natal genitalia will not have developed, likely making surgery much more desirable, if not necessary.

Trans activists lead us to believe that transition is the only and best treatment for gender dysphoria, and that preventing transition can lead to suicide. However, there is no evidence that this is the case.

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Primmest of Trolls

Originally posted at tiny gamete

This post is about the primmest of trolls, Aoife Assumpta Hart. Their conduct has been atrocious, they have severed relationships with friends who were nothing but supportive, they have burned bridges it was assumed they worked on in good faith, and they have utterly embarrassed themselves by showing a lack of regard for other people, and for the politics they claimed to have a genuine interest in. Don’t trust Aoife. Don’t trust someone who finds it so easy to switch from one political movement to another whenever it seems most convenient to their swollen ego. Their self-description seems innocent enough, I suppose.

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Reclaiming Women

Originally posted by Stephanie Davies-Arai at Wales Arts Review

There’s a strange thing happening to the distinct group formerly known as ‘women.’ The change in meaning of the word has crept up on us but it has become so established this past year across the media, government, public institutions and women’s groups that I find myself wondering ‘Who is International Women’s Day for?’ I don’t know anymore, I’d have to check with the organisers: ‘When you say ‘women’ who do you mean?’ The only answer permissible would be ‘anyone who self-identifies as a woman’ because anything thing else would be exclusive of transsexual males and therefore ‘transphobic.’

Already I can hear the sharp intake of breath from those shocked at that term ‘transsexual males;’ already I have declared myself ‘transphobic’ by not using the term ‘trans women.’ I do use that term sometimes out of courtesy, but I use accurate terminology here because that’s what this piece is about. A ‘trans woman’ is a male who identifies as the opposite sex, that’s all, no judgment. ‘Transsexual male’ is accurate and facts in themselves are neutral.

Clarity of language is important, words and their meanings influence thought; it matters to be factual.

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The Artifice of Femininity: Double Standards in The Danish Girl

Originally posted at Jeanne de Montbaston

I saw The Danish Girl, the film loosely based on the real story of Lili Elbe, at the beginning of the month. But I’m only now writing this blog post, because it took (as usual) a little while to organise what I wanted to say. The film is a strange mixture. I thought it was subtle in the way it told the characters’ stories, moving and engaging. As you might guess if you know Elbe’s history, it is pretty dark, with some appallingly disturbing scenes: notably, the episode in which a doctor emotionlessly diagnoses Elbe as a homosexual and enforces a ‘cure’ involving radiation of the genitals, and the scenes of Elbe’s horrific pain following a surgery that was crude beyond belief. But – disappointingly – it’s also saccharine in places, with some surprisingly false notes.

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common transgender assertions

Originally posted at Plastic Girl

There is tons of scientific study that support transsexualism (mind-body mismatch) as a birth condition.

no. there isn’t.

It is a false assumption that you can tell who is trans just by looking. More often than not you can’t.

generally speaking, most trans are very clockable. that’s why they are out as trans. often you can spot them from a distance, just by the way they walk. just as often, you can tell a trans is nearby without even seeing them, by voice only. FTMs sound like they suck on helium, and MTFs speak in monotones, or a strained gay “twang”.

Transgenders have female brains.

no. they don’t.

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“Trans women are women” is a lie that is as dangerous to transwomen as it is to women

Originally posted at Transavant

When I grew up in the seventies and eighties in the north of England, transgender wasn’t a thing. Men were men, and women were women. Heteronormativity was king. In fact it wasn’t just king, it was everything. It didn’t even need a name back then.

Where I grew up, nobody was gay. Faggots, puffters, bum-boys, up-hill gardeners, queers, trannies, gender-benders, dykes, lesbos and their ilk would not have been welcome or tolerated.

These things were shameful. Unacceptable. Wrong. Unnatural.

I’d seen cross dressing on the TV. I’d seen “that perverted faggot” Danny La Rue. I’d seen Kenny Everett’s ‘hilarious’ bearded lady ‘Cupid Stunt’. Being a ‘tranny’ was not a good thing. It was not something I wanted to be. It was something to hide and deny. I lived in fear. I was afraid. I was scared to be a tranny. Society had instilled in me a deep-rooted, intense internalised transphobia.

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