Hitting Peak Trans and Becoming a Minority of One

Originally posted at Gender Critical Dad

I have a beautiful, witty, smart wonderful daughter. She’s always been quite quiet, shy but determined when she sets her sights on something. Late to puberty, lost her last milk tooth only a few weeks ago age 17.

A couple of years ago, she told us she was lesbian, our reaction was that we wondered when she was going to tell us, as far as I can tell we were totally relaxed about that, then after a while she was bisexual, fair enough its all a bit academic in my view until you start fooling about with other people.

She developed an interest in drag culture, fair enough, Ru Paul was all over Netflix, I thought it was all a bit sexist and shallow, but tried not to bang on about that.

She asked permission to cut her hair, we’d never said she had to have long hair, I thought it was a fine idea, she could never be arsed to look after it, and had the bone structure and long neck to carry it off. She got it cut and looked fantastic, you could see her smile so much more and her lovely eyes.

She got into wearing men clothes more and more, and wearing sports bras, then a binder, but hey I dressed like a fright at her age.

She dropped hints about trans stuff, nothing specific, just a bit of Social Justice Warrior rubbish that kids say.

In her small group of school friends, people seemed to be changing sexual orientation, then gender identity became the latest trendy thing, we decided to just ignore it, wait for the next thing to come by. She started going to a gendered intelligence support group, which I imagined to be a bit like a feminist consciousness raising group.

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The peak trans questions

Originally posted at Purple Sage

The following questions are designed to make anyone reach peak trans.

If there is nothing distinguishing trans women from other women then why are we calling some women trans? How do we know which women to call “trans” if there is no way to tell them apart?

Assuming that transgender means transitioning from one gender to the other, then what did trans women transition from? If they were born women and have always been women then why did they need to transition?

Do you think we need a word that describes the set of all adult humans who can produce ova and bear young? Why or why not? If so, what do you think this word should be?

Can you define the word ‘woman’ without using the word in the definition? (i.e. without using a circular definition.)

For the very first time, I’ve had a commenter attempt to answer the questions.

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The Sacred Androgen: The Transgender Debate by Daniel Harris

Originally published by The Antioch Review

Those who choose to alter or even mask their gender merit full protection under the law merely because their decisions, while they may divest them of breasts and birth names, do not strip them of their humanity. TGs face violence, murder, mass unemployment, homelessness, poverty, rampant HIV infection, inadequate healthcare, depression, and, at alarmingly high rates, suicide. Many commentators have singled out tolerance for this most vulnerable part of the population as the final frontier of civil rights, a new contest against bigotry and homophobia, one it would be irresponsible for both politicians and everyday citizens not to address.

And yet just as the issue has come to the fore of public awareness, TGs have ambushed the debate and entangled us in a snare of such trivialities as the proper pronouns with which to address them, protocol as Byzantine and patronizing as the etiquette for addressing royalty. They insult us with the pejorative term “cisgender,” which they use to describe those of us who accept, however unenthusiastically, our birth gender, as opposed to the enlightened few who question their sex. Moreover, they shame us into silence by ridiculing the blunders we make while trying to come to grips with their unique dilemmas, decrying our curiosity about their bodies as prurience and our unwillingness, or even inability, to enter into their own (often unsuccessful) illusion as narrow‑mindedness.

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Nothing Was Ever Enough

Originally posted at Peak Trans Moment

I feel odd submitting this, but maybe might resonate with some people. Like most young women, I started off totally and absolutely accepting trans women. I listened to their plights, learned about their ideologies, and I had one MtF trans friend who was struggling and I was doing my best to help her out ( money wise, tried to find medical help for her, and the list goes on and on. I really went the long mile to help her). She was always upset. Always hysterical (literally. The world was ending for her every day), and always talked about how horrible the oppression was against Trans women. I thought it was terrible for her.

I attended the Trans Marches, I went to support events, and did my best to be educated.

But over time, there were certain things kind of creeping up on me. I would ask my friend if she wanted to go to a lesbian dance club one night, and she would go for 5 minutes then tell me she wanted to leave, thus I would have to leave too to see why she was so upset.  She told me; “Well as you know, ALL lesbians hate trans women. So I don’t feel comfortable there.”

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Have We Reached Peak Trans?

Originally posted at Not the News in Briefs

In all these stories the mainstream media has been broadly supportive of transgender issues. In all the news reports on BBC TV and radio, and in the UK press, the emphasis has been on the discrimination experienced by transgender people, and their courage. (And, in the case of ‘transgender kids’, the courage of their parents for being so supportive). So, if you are an ordinary person going about your life, without being, say, a radical feminist or a gender-critical trans person, to whom these questions matter a lot, then you could be forgiven for thinking that the only problem here is from the nasty transphobic bigots causing all sorts of trouble for brave transgender people suffering discrimination and inequality. In fact the reporting has been so one-sided that I wonder if mainstream journalists have secretly noted what happens to feminists and gender-critical trans people on social media (Transphobe! TERF! Bigot! Cis scum! Die in a fire!) and decided to steer well clear. I wouldn’t blame them.”

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What Makes a Woman?

Originally published by The New York Times

Do women and men have different brains?

Back when Lawrence H. Summers was president of Harvard and suggested that they did, the reaction was swift and merciless. Pundits branded him sexist. Faculty members deemed him a troglodyte. Alumni withheld donations.

But when Bruce Jenner said much the same thing in an April interview with Diane Sawyer, he was lionized for his bravery, even for his progressivism.

“My brain is much more female than it is male,” he told her, explaining how he knew that he was transgender.

This was the prelude to a new photo spread and interview in Vanity Fair that offered us a glimpse into Caitlyn Jenner’s idea of a woman: a cleavage-boosting corset, sultry poses, thick mascara and the prospect of regular “girls’ nights” of banter about hair and makeup. Ms. Jenner was greeted with even more thunderous applause. ESPN announced it would give Ms. Jenner an award for courage. President Obama also praised her. Not to be outdone, Chelsea Manning hopped on Ms. Jenner’s gender train on Twitter, gushing, “I am so much more aware of my emotions; much more sensitive emotionally (and physically).”

A part of me winced.

I have fought for many of my 68 years against efforts to put women — our brains, our hearts, our bodies, even our moods — into tidy boxes, to reduce us to hoary stereotypes. Suddenly, I find that many of the people I think of as being on my side — people who proudly call themselves progressive and fervently support the human need for self-determination — are buying into the notion that minor differences in male and female brains lead to major forks in the road and that some sort of gendered destiny is encoded in us.

That’s the kind of nonsense that was used to repress women for centuries. But the desire to support people like Ms. Jenner and their journey toward their truest selves has strangely and unwittingly brought it back.

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Peak trans x 1,000,000

Originally posted at Snowflake Especial

[I]n the full version [of the video], you get to see Justin Kilian (the guy trans woman wearing lipstick and yelling in the video) go full cray at 1:30, when he she says that after not being allowed into a private meeting between a Smith student and Smith administrators, “They misgender me. They call me a man. I will not stand for that! I WILL NOT STAND FOR THAT!”

If this doesn’t serve as peak trans for everyone left in America, I don’t know what will. Frankly, this guy trans woman has zero in common with a woman, no matter how you want to define woman. He’s obviously not female, as you can tell by his body shape, voice, adams apple, etc. But he also doesn’t look, act, or sound remotely “like a woman”, in any possible interpretation of what that means. In fact, he doesn’t look, act or sound anything like what “trans woman” conjurs up in most people’s minds, either! Let’s be real: he looks, acts and sounds very much like an angry men’s rights activist.

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