Life Transitions: My Son Wants to Wear Dresses

Originally posted at Bauhaus Wife

People think that boys and girls should behave and dress differently from one another, in very specific ways.  I think this is wrong.  I believe that all people should have the freedom to wear clothes that they feel comfortable in, and to make their hair look any way they like, whether they are a girl, or a boy.  Did you know that one hundred years ago, women were not allowed to wear pants?  Can you imagine that? In fact, when Grandma Stacey was a little girl, she was *not allowed* to wear pants to school.  So you see, ideas about what is acceptable in the way of clothing, and behaviour, and attitudes, for boys, and for girls, changes from time to time and from place to place. What I hope for though, is a world in which people are all treated equally no matter what they wear.
You are a boy, Horus.  You are a boy, a male, simply because you have a boy’s body: a penis, testicles, and other male parts.  You will never become pregnant, or give birth to a child, but you may one day decide to be a father when you’re much much older.  Wearing dresses or  your hair in pigtails, or playing with dolls, and ponies, does not make you a girl–you will always be you, no matter what you play with or what you wear.  I want you to understand that you are so lucky to have been born with a perfect body, a boy body, and I want you to know that you *are* your body, and that your body– whole, and functional, and healthy as it is– is an immense gift.  And I want you to know that I will love you no matter who you love, no matter how you dress, and no matter what you like.  I hope you continue to love yourself, and to love your body just the way it is, and that the love, softness and compassion you have for yourself will extend to all the other people in the world.

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